Transitioning is a very personal process that varies among individuals. The most important thing to keep in mind is that there is no such thing as it being too early or too late, and the time-frame for your transition can be quite different; take things at whatever pace is most comfortable for you. Some people might start just going by a different name and/or pronouns and trying out new looks; others might choose to pursue medical options such as Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) or certain surgeries. As we discussed earlier, there is no such thing as “not being trans enough.” Take things one step at a time, and do what is best for you.
I’m nervous about starting my transition, how can I get my foot in the door?
It’s natural to feel nervous about any big life change: Start small and work your way upward from there. You could test the waters by attending LGBT+ events as an ally if you’re not out yet. You could use a different name and/or pronouns around a trusted group of friends and start wearing gender-neutral or gender-affirming clothing. Ask a trusted friend accompany you to get new clothes if you’re uncomfortable going alone (or just want to have a fun time out with a friend).
How do I choose my new name?
There are no special rules for deciding on a name. Some people try to pick a name that has a certain significance, such as what their parents would have named them if they had been assigned a different gender at birth, or they name themselves after a relative. Another person may simply pick a name they like the sound of. Some may choose to feminize or masculinize their birth name, and still others might even keep their original name if they like it. Don’t let other people tell you what you should do: It’s your name, after all!
When should I start considering gendered clothing?
The short answer is, whenever you’re comfortable! Clothes do not determine your gender; you do. You are allowed to wear whatever you feel most comfortable in. Keep in mind that gender expression and gender identity are not the same thing–wearing clothes that feel best to you is the most important thing; you do not have to ‘prove’ your gender by wearing certain clothes.
When should I start pursuing Hormone Replacement Therapy?
Although many trans people choose to pursue HRT, it is not a requirement to transition. HRT can help one’s physical body become more aligned with their gender identity. If you are under 18, you will need the permission of a parent or legal guardian to pursue HRT. As always, consult a doctor to make a plan that works for you.
Only come out if you’re comfortable doing so
You should only come out to people if you feel comfortable and ready to share that information with them. For more tips about coming out, refer to our previous SASS blog post over here!